Why Friendships in Big Cities Don't Stick
Why adult friendship in a big city is harder to start than student friendship was, and why what you build on purpose ends up being deeper than what came for free.
May 7, 2026 Viktor Stojanov
Group Chat Fatigue Is Real
The fatigue isn't from too many messages. It's from messages that demand a response without ever asking a question. A note on screens, candy, and what real conversation actually feeds.
April 26, 2026 Viktor Stojanov
Small by Design: Why the Group That Matters Has a Cap
In university my circle kept collapsing back to four, and Robin Dunbar's research suggests that's not a coincidence. On why real intimacy has a ceiling, and why the gatherings that matter still run on a small-group engine even when the crowd is big.
April 24, 2026 Viktor Stojanov
What a Friendship App Should Actually Do
Most apps with the word friend in the copy are engagement apps in disguise. A reflection on what software built for friendship would actually look like — and why ritual matters more than reach.
April 22, 2026 Colloquies Team
How to Make Friends as an Adult
Adult friendship isn't a personality problem. It's an infrastructure problem, and the infrastructure is quietly coming back. Where to look, how to show up, and what to do when the first three weeks feel awkward.
April 20, 2026 Colloquies Team
The Thursday Problem
Men aren't losing friends because they won't open up. They're losing the weekly reason to show up. The male friendship crisis is an infrastructure problem, not a character one.
April 19, 2026 Colloquies Team
Half Your Close Friends Will Be Gone in Seven Years
Research shows we replace half our closest friends every seven years. Not from fights — from drift. Why friendships are uniquely fragile, and what the survivors have in common.
April 18, 2026 Colloquies Team
Why Your Best Friendships Have a Rhythm
The friendships that survive adult life share one trait: regularity. Research shows why a weekly cadence matters more than grand gestures.
April 16, 2026 Colloquies Team
The Friendship Recession Nobody Warned Us About
What the friendship recession is, why adults have fewer close friends than at any point in 30 years, and what the research says about why it's still getting worse.
April 8, 2026 Colloquies Team